Homework

One of the biggest struggles that I have with my kids is dealing with homework.  Each of them really struggle with organization, and concentrating.  At the end of last quarter, I was looking through the online program that helps me keep track of my kids grades, and asking my kids about all the zeros.  One of my kids reads every night as part of his homework, but he was failing the reading section of his class.  When I asked him what was going on, he let me know that he never writes down the information.  He has to write the title of the book, how many pages he read, and how long he read.  It would take him about 20 seconds, but because he skipped this small step almost every night after doing the work, he was failing the class. 

My daughter forgets her materials for homework several times a week.  It is very common to turn around within 5 minutes of getting home to pick up her materials that she left at school.  A few times a month, we make multiple trips to school to pick up still more supplies.  I have tried refusing to take them back, and just have it affect their grade, but then forgetting becomes more frequent because it helps them get out of doing their homework.

I have signed up to have the grading software e-mail me daily with their grades so I can keep track of their grades.  I always have a child failing at least one class.  My oldest is in 9th grade, and it is so scary having his grades affect his ability to get into college.  We have made a rule that he has to have a 3.0 gpa, and can't be failing any classes to earn the right to play video games.  It has worked pretty well so far.

At the beginning of this quarter, we decided to start a new homework ritual.  Everyday when we get home from school, I meet each of my kids at a large whiteboard in our kitchen, and we look through their planners.  We make a list of all the things they need to do, including packing up their backpacks for the following day, and putting them in the closet where they will be able to find them.  I thought that it would be such a great idea, and it would help us stay on top of things.  We are a few weeks into the quarter, and two of my kids have had failing grades already.  I'm not sure what else I can do.  Trying to keep up with my kids education is a full time job.  When I talk to parents of other kids who are on the spectrum, they talk about how challenging it is to get their kids to do their homework.  It is challenging.  Dealing with getting 4 ASD kids to keep up in school is more than I can handle right now.  Pity party of 1, right here!

We homeschooled a few years ago.  I really love homeschooling.  I was talking to my sister earlier today, and I realize that there are a few things that I am trying to consider as I try to decide whether or not to homeschool in the future.  First, what can I handle.  In addition to having my 4 school aged kids, I also have an 8 month old.  I'm not sure I can do the baby thing and the homeschool thing at the same time.  Second, what is the best choice for my kids.  What choice will teach them the skills that they need to succeed in life.  What choice will push all of us out of our comfort zone in a way that will help us grow and develop into the people we need to be.  What choice will accomplish the goals that I have for my family.

Three of my four kids are on medication for ADHD.  The fourth is showing signs that she could probably benefit from it, but I just can't make that decision yet.  I was having a discussion with one of my sisters at the beginning of the year.  She isn't a mother yet, and so it will be interesting to see if her opinions change if she does decide to have kids.  I had all the answers before I was a mom.  She took a psychology class last semester that was very anti-medication.  In my opinion, I think medication is not the perfect answer, but it makes a huge difference in my kids ability to learn.  I really struggle with my kids on meds.  I really don't think I could function trying to do this without medication.  I really think that as long as education is a "one-size fits all" formula, it will need to be a necessary part of our lives.  If I could educate my kids "Einstein style" I might have a chance.  But not with the current system.

That is enough rambling for now.